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It's been difficult for me—more difficult than I've let on—to watch my granddaughter grow up in, shall we say, bohemian circumstances. Before she was born, I considered the prospect in all its distressing details, and resolved to do what I could to provide my granddaughter with some structures that would minimize the worst tendencies of her parents. And I must say that the results have been satisfactory. Despite having a mother who still styles herself a radical environmentalist and a father who lost most of his hearing playing in a punk rock band, Samantha, now in her twelfth year, commands several advantages in life: she seems to move with equal confidence through the corridors of her very good school and on the streets of her ethnically mixed neighborhood; she has two parents who speak to each other, civilly if not affectionately; two houses in said neighborhood, both in reasonably good repair and both mortgage-free; and two grandparents who are willing to step up for occasional child care duties.
My relations with Dorothy Shepanski, Samantha's other grandparent, have always been cordial, even pleasant, if hardly intimate. Twelve years ago, after Lisa had become pregnant and announced her intention to have a child out of wedlock, I sought out Dorothy. She responded to my request for a meeting with charm, grace, and a wholly appropriate reserve. I could tell that her loyalty to her difficult, talented, adult son was every bit as deeply rooted as my loyalty to my difficult, talented, adult daughter. In the years since, Dorothy and I have accepted our symmetrical positions in Samantha's family tree, knowing full well that ours is a contingent alliance: we both want the best for Samantha, and as long as Samantha's parents agree on what that means, Dorothy and I will agree as well. At Samantha's birthday parties, I've learned to avoid mentioning my corporate clients, lest I agitate Dorothy's liberal Catholic outrage at the profit motive; for her part, she has learned to keep her views on war to herself, lest she and I promptly re-enact the Oxford Union debate of 1933.
Which is why, earlier today, I found Dorothy's lack of cordiality so notable. My daughter Lisa has been in Boulder, Colorado for the past week, leading workshops at a retreat for community organizers. In her absence, the primary child care responsibilities have fallen upon Samantha's father, Gary. And it was he who called me yesterday, in need of a favor. Gary seemed to be in a state of mixed elation and overwork as he described his dilemma: an exhibition of his paintings was opening that night at Centro de Barrio Lange, and though it might seem a relatively minor affair, a few paintings hanging at a neighborhood community center, the curator had connections, the other artist was from L.A., people from New York were coming. Samantha would attend the first hour or so of the opening, then Dorothy would pick her up, but the schedule got tight on Saturday, when the people from New York wanted to take Gary and the other artist out to lunch and Dorothy had matinee tickets for the repertory theater. Gary is not a person who finds it easy to ask for help; beneath his bluster the awkwardness was almost painful to perceive; though I daresay that if his artistic career continues to advance, he will get much better at this sort of thing. In any case, I agreed to take Samantha; it would be, as always, my pleasure. I would be at the Tangled Bank; Dorothy could drop Samantha off on her way downtown to the matinee.
A brief meeting of the executive committee had come to an end not long before; I was sitting at a table in the main room of the Tangled Bank with Melissa, a fellow board member who has taken on a rather large job: temporary director of the center. Our discussion included a few budgetary matters, and the progress of the search to find a permanent director. Perhaps we had finished with the official business; perhaps the conversation had moved on to lighter matters; perhaps we were talking about her child, or her research, or the politics of the biology department. It is not unlikely that we were laughing when Dorothy appeared in the door.
"Samantha's on the nature path," she said.
"Dorothy," I said. "Come in."
"Louise is in the car," she said. "We're running late."
"Of course," I said. "Is it still the Chekov?"
"You might want to talk to that child," she said, and was gone.
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Melissa, December 17, 2007
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"This has nothing to do with Lisa," said Gary. "It's only because I pretty much fucking built the place."
I nodded. "That’s... what I understand," I said.
"Not the electrical, of course. Or the plumbing. Or the concrete pours. Though I could've done a better job than those assholes the contractor hired."
"It was very generous of you," I said. "I mean, it is, still—"
"Fuck that," said Gary. "There was nothing fucking generous about it. Okay. I'm going out."
He opened the door and walked out into the snow. I looked out at the roof, the snow, the night, the big guy in the jumpsuit.
"Are you all right?" I called after him.
"I'm fine," he called back. "Close the fucking door. You're letting the heat out. It's a fucking green building, remember?"
I closed the door and tried to keep an eye on his progress through the window. Framed by the vertical slit, the scene had become even more disorienting: snowflakes illuminated from below, the hulking figure trudging among the vents and boxes. I saw him tug at something, kick it, then lift the thing, a snowy mass, and toss it into the darkness.
A minute later he was back on the landing, stomping the snow off his jumpsuit.
"Fucking big-assed tree branch," he said. "From the oak tree. Totally blocking the intake. It must've fallen in the windstorm. That was two weeks ago, before the snow. You been having problems that long?"
"Maybe," I said. "I thought it was just winter. I... I just... turned up the thermostat."
"You shouldn't let shit that go that long. You gotta get a regular maintenance man for this place."
The snow was flying off his clothes and boots. I stood as far from him as possible on the little landing.
"I'm working on it," I said. "With the board. It takes time."
The shaking and stomping and brushing stopped. He looked at me.
"Hey," he said. "I'm not getting down on you personally. Sorry if I came on too strong."
"No problem," I said. "It was so great for you to come over and help. I really didn't know who else to call. Let me get you some coffee."
"You're pretty much a volunteer here yourself, aren't you?" he said.
"Sort of," I said. "One of the donors made a deal with the biology department. Next semester my teaching load will be reduced by one class."
"That's not much," he said. "This is a big job here."
"There's a search committee," I said. "Maybe by summer we'll have a new executive director. C'mon, let's get that coffee."
Downstairs, you could already feel the warmth returning. I fixed a cup of coffee for Gary and a hot chocolate for me. We talked about our kids for a while. I asked about Samantha. He said she was trying to find her mother a job. He asked about Jake—how was he handling the steroid scandal in baseball? I said he was trying to use it as an excuse not to take his asthma medicine. Smart kid, he said. Smart at being stupid, I said. Gary had stopped swearing—as if he no longer needed the sparks of profanity to keep him warm.
His eyes wandered around the center for a moment. Builder's eyes. The same attention to detail that a biologist brings to the field, but something else, too. More willful.
"You did all the carpentry?" I said.
"Yeah," he said. "The rough and the finish."
"You did a great job," I said. "It must be difficult for you, now that Lisa—"
"Nothing fucking to do with her," he said. "I mean, she was the fucking client, but that wasn't why I did it."
He seemed to want to tell me something, but he wanted me to ask.
"Why then?" I finally said, after a pause.
"Sam's grandpa," he said, after his own pause.
"Raymond?" I said.
"You know," he said. "At the time, I had no fucking clue. Only when I looked back, I could see how old Raymond had put it all together. Know what I mean?"
"I don't quite follow..." I said.
"Look," he said. "This was the early nineties, after the band had finally gone fucking south. There I was, living off the book, no reported income, no visible fucking means of support."
"You were in a band?" I said. "I guess I should have known... from the tatoos."
I smiled awkwardly.
"Yeah," he said. "I was in Arbeit Macht Frei."
"No way!" I said. "My older brother had all your albums. And this disgusting t-shirt.... I thought the band was from West Berlin or Amsterdam or..."
"Someplace cool?" he said. "Nope. Three jews and a polack from right fucking here. Fucking suburbs, actually."
"Wow," I said. "You guys really had a following in Columbus. You were like... grunge before there was grunge."
"Like grunge before there was money," he said. "We toured for ten years. Most of the time we were crashing on our fans' fucking floors. I was telling you a story about Raymond. You wanna hear it?"
"Uh, sure," I said.
The story started with the breakup of the band. He told me how, in its last two years, Arbeit Macht Frei had made a little money and they had all started to hate each other. How he walked away with just enough cash to buy an old crackhouse in Barrio Lange and fix it up. How he built himself a studio and started painting again. How he and Lisa had had a thing. How Lisa had been almost as much of a fringe character as he was back then, this fucking crazy environmentalist chick. How she got pregnant. How she wanted to keep the baby, which surprised the fuck out of Gary. But how he knew she was serious because she quit drinking right away.
Then he leaned forward and gave me a little sociology lesson. He told me how the fucking state comes in and fucks up everyone's lives if a dad can't pay his fucking child support. He leaned back and shook his head. Fucking Lisa had been about to go ahead and apply for fucking welfare anyway.
But that was when Raymond Deveridge, Lisa's dad, whom Gary had never even fucking met before, showed up with a package deal to solve everyone's problems.
Gary lifted his arms and looked around the room.
"You mean the center?" I said. "The Tangled Bank? This was Raymond's idea?"
"Oh, the idea was Lisa's. But you gotta understand, Lisa had lots of fucking ideas. Raymond picked the one he was going to make happen."
The deal took a year or two to play out. Lisa got a job running the center, Gary got a job building the center, nobody had to get married who didn't fucking want to (the two of them sure as hell didn't), their paychecks were nice and low, but not too low, which looked good for the fundraising, which Raymond took care of, at least in the early years, until Lisa got good at it.
And when Samantha was born, she got a trust fund, with monthly payments right from the start. So the small paychecks didn't matter, because Lisa and Gary didn't have to use those paychecks to support their kid.
Gary paused, to let me catch up. I sat in silence for a moment.
"It's... it's a lot to absorb," I said.
"The trust fund even sends me checks when I take Samantha for the weekends," he said. "Fucking sweet, hey?"
"So that's how this place started," I said. "Kind of a... family thing."
"Hey," he said. "This place is real. Fuck the family drama. That river is real, all the nature is real, you know the science is real, and I can guarantee this building is fucking real."
"I know," I said. "Thanks. For everything. Well, I gotta get home. I have to be back here at 7:30 to unlock the doors for a busload of seventh graders."
I stood and picked up the cups. Gary stood up too.
"Yeah," he said. "I should get back to the studio."
"I'm sorry I had to interrupt you," I said.
"Don't worry," he said. "I never get started before midnight."
"This has nothing to do with Lisa," said Gary. "It's only because I pretty much fucking built the place."
I nodded. "That’s... what I understand," I said.
"Not the electrical, of course. Or the plumbing. Or the concrete pours. Though I could've done a better job than those assholes the contractor hired."
"It was very generous of you," I said. "I mean, it is, still—"
"Fuck that," said Gary. "There was nothing fucking generous about it. Okay. I'm going out."
He opened the door and walked out into the snow. I looked out at the roof, the snow, the night, the big guy in the jumpsuit.
"Are you all right?" I called after him.
"I'm fine," he called back. "Close the fucking door. You're letting the heat out. It's a fucking green building, remember?"
I closed the door and tried to keep an eye on his progress through the window. Framed by the vertical slit, the scene had become even more disorienting: snowflakes illuminated from below, the hulking figure trudging among the vents and boxes. I saw him tug at something, kick it, then lift the thing, a snowy mass, and toss it into the darkness.
A minute later he was back on the landing, stomping the snow off his jumpsuit.
"Fucking big-assed tree branch," he said. "From the oak tree. Totally blocking the intake. It must've fallen in the windstorm. That was two weeks ago, before the snow. You been having problems that long?"
"Maybe," I said. "I thought it was just winter. I... I just... turned up the thermostat."
"You shouldn't let shit that go that long. You gotta get a regular maintenance man for this place."
The snow was flying off his clothes and boots. I stood as far from him as possible on the little landing.
"I'm working on it," I said. "With the board. It takes time."
The shaking and stomping and brushing stopped. He looked at me.
"Hey," he said. "I'm not getting down on you personally. Sorry if I came on too strong."
"No problem," I said. "It was so great for you to come over and help. I really didn't know who else to call. Let me get you some coffee."
"You're pretty much a volunteer here yourself, aren't you?" he said.
"Sort of," I said. "One of the donors made a deal with the biology department. Next semester my teaching load will be reduced by one class."
"That's not much," he said. "This is a big job here."
"There's a search committee," I said. "Maybe by summer we'll have a new executive director. C'mon, let's get that coffee."
Downstairs, you could already feel the warmth returning. I fixed a cup of coffee for Gary and a hot chocolate for me. We talked about our kids for a while. I asked about Samantha. He said she was trying to find her mother a job. He asked about Jake—how was he handling the steroid scandal in baseball? I said he was trying to use it as an excuse not to take his asthma medicine. Smart kid, he said. Smart at being stupid, I said. Gary had stopped swearing—as if he no longer needed the sparks of profanity to keep him warm.
His eyes wandered around the center for a moment. Builder's eyes. The same attention to detail that a biologist brings to the field, but something else, too. More willful.
"You did all the carpentry?" I said.
"Yeah," he said. "The rough and the finish."
"You did a great job," I said. "It must be difficult for you, now that Lisa—"
"Nothing fucking to do with her," he said. "I mean, she was the fucking client, but that wasn't why I did it."
He seemed to want to tell me something, but he wanted me to ask.
"Why then?" I finally said, after a pause.
"Sam's grandpa," he said, after his own pause.
"Raymond?" I said.
"You know," he said. "At the time, I had no fucking clue. Only when I looked back, I could see how old Raymond had put it all together. Know what I mean?"
"I don't quite follow..." I said.
"Look," he said. "This was the early nineties, after the band had finally gone fucking south. There I was, living off the book, no reported income, no visible fucking means of support."
"You were in a band?" I said. "I guess I should have known... from the tatoos."
I smiled awkwardly.
"Yeah," he said. "I was in Arbeit Macht Frei."
"No way!" I said. "My older brother had all your albums. And this disgusting t-shirt.... I thought the band was from West Berlin or Amsterdam or..."
"Someplace cool?" he said. "Nope. Three jews and a polack from right fucking here. Fucking suburbs, actually."
"Wow," I said. "You guys really had a following in Columbus. You were like... grunge before there was grunge."
"Like grunge before there was money," he said. "We toured for ten years. Most of the time we were crashing on our fans' fucking floors. I was telling you a story about Raymond. You wanna hear it?"
"Uh, sure," I said.
The story started with the breakup of the band. He told me how, in its last two years, Arbeit Macht Frei had made a little money and they had all started to hate each other. How he walked away with just enough cash to buy an old crackhouse in Barrio Lange and fix it up. How he built himself a studio and started painting again. How he and Lisa had had a thing. How Lisa had been almost as much of a fringe character as he was back then, this fucking crazy environmentalist chick. How she got pregnant. How she wanted to keep the baby, which surprised the fuck out of Gary. But how he knew she was serious because she quit drinking right away.
Then he leaned forward and gave me a little sociology lesson. He told me how the fucking state comes in and fucks up everyone's lives if a dad can't pay his fucking child support. He leaned back and shook his head. Fucking Lisa had been about to go ahead and apply for fucking welfare anyway.
But that was when Raymond Deveridge, Lisa's dad, whom Gary had never even fucking met before, showed up with a package deal to solve everyone's problems.
Gary lifted his arms and looked around the room.
"You mean the center?" I said. "The Tangled Bank? This was Raymond's idea?"
"Oh, the idea was Lisa's. But you gotta understand, Lisa had lots of fucking ideas. Raymond picked the one he was going to make happen."
The deal took a year or two to play out. Lisa got a job running the center, Gary got a job building the center, nobody had to get married who didn't fucking want to (the two of them sure as hell didn't), their paychecks were nice and low, but not too low, which looked good for the fundraising, which Raymond took care of, at least in the early years, until Lisa got good at it.
And when Samantha was born, she got a trust fund, with monthly payments right from the start. So the small paychecks didn't matter, because Lisa and Gary didn't have to use those paychecks to support their kid.
Gary paused, to let me catch up. I sat in silence for a moment.
"It's... it's a lot to absorb," I said.
"The trust fund even sends me checks when I take Samantha for the weekends," he said. "Fucking sweet, hey?"
"So that's how this place started," I said. "Kind of a... family thing."
"Hey," he said. "This place is real. Fuck the family drama. That river is real, all the nature is real, you know the science is real, and I can guarantee this building is fucking real."
"I know," I said. "Thanks. For everything. Well, I gotta get home. I have to be back here at 7:30 to unlock the doors for a busload of seventh graders."
I stood and picked up the cups. Gary stood up too.
"Yeah," he said. "I should get back to the studio."
"I'm sorry I had to interrupt you," I said.
"Don't worry," he said. "I never get started before midnight."
Sunday, September 23, 2007
Jacob, September 19, 2007
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I'm okay... I just ran too hard... I told her... I don't need... to go to the... nurse's office.
Yeah. It's... in my backpack.
Okay. It's... it's... in here....
No, I'm... okay. This isn't bad. I can... still play.
Here it is... Okay.
Hhheewwwww...
But I only do it once. My dad says...
Okay. Hhheewwwww...
I used the nebulizer this morning. My mom makes me do it before breakfast. She makes me blow into the tester thing and if the needle doesn't go far enough she makes me do the nebulizer.
The inhaler? I dunno, I just put it in my backpack. For Emer...Gen...Cies.
Yeah. I remember. You said... I should use my inhaler before recess...
But I can't let the other kids see it.
They won't pick me for the teams. My dad said you can't show them any weakness.
I guess so. Ashley... and Brandon... and Mathew... They all have 'em.
I dunno, they get picked, I guess... but they aren't good.
At sports. You can tell who's good and who isn't... and the kids with inhalers, the way they hold the bat, you can tell.
I just have to try harder. You get asthma from sitting around too much watching TV. My dad says Teddy Roosevelt had asthma until he became a cowboy.
I dunno, he was a president or something. He's the one with the moustache on the mountain. My dad wants me to go out to a dude ranch next summer and get over my asthma.
It was great. Yeah we saw the presidents and my dad and I went hiking, up on the big rocks. We saw a prairie dog, and a bison, all by itself, and a tiger salamander on a rock and some mudpuppies and a tree frog and my mom didn't believe us but we saw a bobcat. In the afternoon. My mom says no one ever sees bobcats in the afternoon but we saw one. My dad took a picture on his phone but it was blurry. My mom said she wished we had taken a picture of the tree frog instead because it might be in danger specie.
No, I didn't need it at all when we were camping. It was only on the way back, at that motel...
My dad says they didn't clean right the room right. He's gonna sue the owner for cost of the emergency room and for him and mom staying up all night, or if he doesn't sue them he's going to call the agency in South Dakota and get their license in trouble because he knows someone.
No, my mom doesn't think I should go. She says I need to do what the nurse at school says before I can go to any dude ranch.
Yeah, I know. You say...
I should use my inhaler before recess.
Okay. One more time.
Hhheewwwww...
I'm okay... I just ran too hard... I told her... I don't need... to go to the... nurse's office.
Yeah. It's... in my backpack.
Okay. It's... it's... in here....
No, I'm... okay. This isn't bad. I can... still play.
Here it is... Okay.
Hhheewwwww...
But I only do it once. My dad says...
Okay. Hhheewwwww...
I used the nebulizer this morning. My mom makes me do it before breakfast. She makes me blow into the tester thing and if the needle doesn't go far enough she makes me do the nebulizer.
The inhaler? I dunno, I just put it in my backpack. For Emer...Gen...Cies.
Yeah. I remember. You said... I should use my inhaler before recess...
But I can't let the other kids see it.
They won't pick me for the teams. My dad said you can't show them any weakness.
I guess so. Ashley... and Brandon... and Mathew... They all have 'em.
I dunno, they get picked, I guess... but they aren't good.
At sports. You can tell who's good and who isn't... and the kids with inhalers, the way they hold the bat, you can tell.
I just have to try harder. You get asthma from sitting around too much watching TV. My dad says Teddy Roosevelt had asthma until he became a cowboy.
I dunno, he was a president or something. He's the one with the moustache on the mountain. My dad wants me to go out to a dude ranch next summer and get over my asthma.
It was great. Yeah we saw the presidents and my dad and I went hiking, up on the big rocks. We saw a prairie dog, and a bison, all by itself, and a tiger salamander on a rock and some mudpuppies and a tree frog and my mom didn't believe us but we saw a bobcat. In the afternoon. My mom says no one ever sees bobcats in the afternoon but we saw one. My dad took a picture on his phone but it was blurry. My mom said she wished we had taken a picture of the tree frog instead because it might be in danger specie.
No, I didn't need it at all when we were camping. It was only on the way back, at that motel...
My dad says they didn't clean right the room right. He's gonna sue the owner for cost of the emergency room and for him and mom staying up all night, or if he doesn't sue them he's going to call the agency in South Dakota and get their license in trouble because he knows someone.
No, my mom doesn't think I should go. She says I need to do what the nurse at school says before I can go to any dude ranch.
Yeah, I know. You say...
I should use my inhaler before recess.
Okay. One more time.
Hhheewwwww...
Wednesday, July 25, 2007
Raymond, July 23, 2007
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It was on a Wednesday night, a couple of weeks ago. Melissa and I had had a brief meeting, a sidebar if you will, in preparation for the full board meeting the next day. I was escorting her out to her car, when suddenly her back stiffened in fright. A figure was stepping out of the shadows—a tattooed arm, a cordless drill—and speaking my name. Melissa cursed at the figure, who responded in language equally vulgar but far warmer in tone, and in a moment the situation dissolved, as such situations usually do, into hasty acknowledgements of recognition and breathless apologies.
The figure was Gary. It's not unusual to find Gary around the Tangled Bank at odd hours. He displays a certain—let's call it a proprietary tenderness for the physical structure of the place, and far be it from me to challenge his feelings of ownership, particularly when they manifest themselves in frequents acts of unbilled light maintenance.
On this evening, he had stopped by to fix a piece of molding, to which he referred as if I would undoubtedly know which piece of molding, and why it needed fixing. I did not disabuse him of this impression, which encouraged him to mention additional maintenance projects, projects which would require specific budget items, as he no longer had the spare time to devote to such matters, the demand for his art work having taken off.
Of course I understood. And I was happy, and I wanted him to know I was happy, that he chose to keep coming back to the center and keep things in fine shape, but however happy I was, there was no trace of complacency in my happiness, no expectation—
A car door swung shut. Headlights came on. The lights swung to and fro as Melissa backed out of her parking space. She called out to us her sorrow at having to leave so quickly, but her son was waiting. Gary called back his complete understanding. I simply waved.
Gary and I watched her drive off, insects sparkling in the torches of her headlights, a glimpse of the glistening river as her tires caught the dip in the gravel.
I turned back to Gary and reassured him that we on the board understood that we could not count on his continued in-kind donations of skilled labor, and that if we came in under budget in the building maintenance account, it was because of his continued generosity, and that we all understood how his gifts were as good as cash.
He did not respond immediately, and for a moment I had the unusual feeling that I was the one who had been talking too much. Sometimes it seems as if you are negotiating about one thing, when in fact an entirely different issue is in play. In such cases it's best to let the other party tell you what's going on. They always do.
Gary shuffled for a moment, the cordless drill swinging in his hand, a useless tool for the current task.
Eventually he set the drill down on a window sill. Then he turned to me and asked if I meant that the debt had been paid.
There was never a debt, I explained. Samantha was my granddaughter, and it had been my privilege to contribute to her support.
It was on a Wednesday night, a couple of weeks ago. Melissa and I had had a brief meeting, a sidebar if you will, in preparation for the full board meeting the next day. I was escorting her out to her car, when suddenly her back stiffened in fright. A figure was stepping out of the shadows—a tattooed arm, a cordless drill—and speaking my name. Melissa cursed at the figure, who responded in language equally vulgar but far warmer in tone, and in a moment the situation dissolved, as such situations usually do, into hasty acknowledgements of recognition and breathless apologies.
The figure was Gary. It's not unusual to find Gary around the Tangled Bank at odd hours. He displays a certain—let's call it a proprietary tenderness for the physical structure of the place, and far be it from me to challenge his feelings of ownership, particularly when they manifest themselves in frequents acts of unbilled light maintenance.
On this evening, he had stopped by to fix a piece of molding, to which he referred as if I would undoubtedly know which piece of molding, and why it needed fixing. I did not disabuse him of this impression, which encouraged him to mention additional maintenance projects, projects which would require specific budget items, as he no longer had the spare time to devote to such matters, the demand for his art work having taken off.
Of course I understood. And I was happy, and I wanted him to know I was happy, that he chose to keep coming back to the center and keep things in fine shape, but however happy I was, there was no trace of complacency in my happiness, no expectation—
A car door swung shut. Headlights came on. The lights swung to and fro as Melissa backed out of her parking space. She called out to us her sorrow at having to leave so quickly, but her son was waiting. Gary called back his complete understanding. I simply waved.
Gary and I watched her drive off, insects sparkling in the torches of her headlights, a glimpse of the glistening river as her tires caught the dip in the gravel.
I turned back to Gary and reassured him that we on the board understood that we could not count on his continued in-kind donations of skilled labor, and that if we came in under budget in the building maintenance account, it was because of his continued generosity, and that we all understood how his gifts were as good as cash.
He did not respond immediately, and for a moment I had the unusual feeling that I was the one who had been talking too much. Sometimes it seems as if you are negotiating about one thing, when in fact an entirely different issue is in play. In such cases it's best to let the other party tell you what's going on. They always do.
Gary shuffled for a moment, the cordless drill swinging in his hand, a useless tool for the current task.
Eventually he set the drill down on a window sill. Then he turned to me and asked if I meant that the debt had been paid.
There was never a debt, I explained. Samantha was my granddaughter, and it had been my privilege to contribute to her support.
Wednesday, June 20, 2007
Dorothy, June 19, 2007
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Yesterday, for the first day of class, Louise insisted on driving me. I told her that I had been driving every day, everywhere I wanted to go except those few places where she was also going, places that didn't seem to me much different at all from all my other destinations, to which she replied that I had obviously been driving much too much, and if I didn't want to have that cast put back on my arm I needed to take a break now and then, and as far as she was concerned the issue was closed, but of course she kept talking, it would be silly for both of us to drive and park our cars right next to each other in that tiny parking lot where it was so easy to hit the dumpster with your taillight when you're pulling back out, and it made more sense for me to be in her car as her navigator, as it was only my wrist which I had broken and not my neck, leaving me fully capable of turning around and looking out the back window when needed. I listened to her and eventually I agreed, because in fact my wrist had been hurting me, it had kept me up most of Sunday night, and I even had begun to wonder if I had been driving too much.
We drove into the park and Louise pointed to the new benches and picnic tables and we talked about how much nicer the park had become in the past few years, how upset we had been four years ago when Professor Jorgensen had moved the Elder Summer Science Series from a classroom at the university to this park where none of us had set foot in years, some of us remembered taking our kids there for the swimming pool, which was the nicest one in the city in the early 1960s-but all that ended a few years later with the riots, not the swimming pool, but our coming there with our kids. We both agreed that even though we had been upset at first, it had all worked out for the best. Louise said that Professor Jorgensen had been very brave to build a nature center in park with so many troubles, and I told her that I didn't think Professor Jorgensen was the one who actually built the nature center, it was that Deveridge girl, Lisa, the attorney's daughter, but Louise said that even if the girl had been the one to do all the work and appear on television all the time, it was obvious that Professor Jorgensen had been in charge, and I decided not to correct her, because sometimes it's better to seem as if you only know what you've read in the papers.
There were only two other cars in the parking lot and Louise recognized one of them, I don't know how she does it, all cars look the same to me. It's those Lutheran ladies, she said, and I told her to shush, she knows very well I don't like it when she labels everybody by what church they go to. They're such flirts, she said, and I knew what she meant, because the Lutheran ladies had only started coming to the Elder Summer Science Series two years ago, after Sonya, Professor Jorgensen's wife, had died, but all I said to Louise was that I hoped she could be ecumenical.
Inside the center the Lutheran ladies were looking at the posters of Prokaryotes and Eukaryotes designed by the high school class, and at the other end of the room, typing on a laptop computer, was a young girl, maybe thirty years old. It must be his new assistant, whispered Louise, those Lutheran ladies don't have a chance, and I didn't say anything but I noticed the wedding band on the girl's finger as she typed.
Then Louise walked right over and introduced herself to the girl. And the girl looked up and smiled and said her name was Melissa, she was an assistant professor in the Biology Department, and gathered us all together, and said that and even though she had never really worked with Professor Jorgensen as he had retired from regular teaching moved away, except for the summers, before she was hired, she was honored to take over a program which he had started, and she was so delighted that we had all decided to continue with the program, it was really a wonderful tribute to a great man's memory.
At which point she looked at our faces and realized that we had all come to the class expecting to find Professor Jorgensen.
None of us had heard the news. Not even me.
Yesterday, for the first day of class, Louise insisted on driving me. I told her that I had been driving every day, everywhere I wanted to go except those few places where she was also going, places that didn't seem to me much different at all from all my other destinations, to which she replied that I had obviously been driving much too much, and if I didn't want to have that cast put back on my arm I needed to take a break now and then, and as far as she was concerned the issue was closed, but of course she kept talking, it would be silly for both of us to drive and park our cars right next to each other in that tiny parking lot where it was so easy to hit the dumpster with your taillight when you're pulling back out, and it made more sense for me to be in her car as her navigator, as it was only my wrist which I had broken and not my neck, leaving me fully capable of turning around and looking out the back window when needed. I listened to her and eventually I agreed, because in fact my wrist had been hurting me, it had kept me up most of Sunday night, and I even had begun to wonder if I had been driving too much.
We drove into the park and Louise pointed to the new benches and picnic tables and we talked about how much nicer the park had become in the past few years, how upset we had been four years ago when Professor Jorgensen had moved the Elder Summer Science Series from a classroom at the university to this park where none of us had set foot in years, some of us remembered taking our kids there for the swimming pool, which was the nicest one in the city in the early 1960s-but all that ended a few years later with the riots, not the swimming pool, but our coming there with our kids. We both agreed that even though we had been upset at first, it had all worked out for the best. Louise said that Professor Jorgensen had been very brave to build a nature center in park with so many troubles, and I told her that I didn't think Professor Jorgensen was the one who actually built the nature center, it was that Deveridge girl, Lisa, the attorney's daughter, but Louise said that even if the girl had been the one to do all the work and appear on television all the time, it was obvious that Professor Jorgensen had been in charge, and I decided not to correct her, because sometimes it's better to seem as if you only know what you've read in the papers.
There were only two other cars in the parking lot and Louise recognized one of them, I don't know how she does it, all cars look the same to me. It's those Lutheran ladies, she said, and I told her to shush, she knows very well I don't like it when she labels everybody by what church they go to. They're such flirts, she said, and I knew what she meant, because the Lutheran ladies had only started coming to the Elder Summer Science Series two years ago, after Sonya, Professor Jorgensen's wife, had died, but all I said to Louise was that I hoped she could be ecumenical.
Inside the center the Lutheran ladies were looking at the posters of Prokaryotes and Eukaryotes designed by the high school class, and at the other end of the room, typing on a laptop computer, was a young girl, maybe thirty years old. It must be his new assistant, whispered Louise, those Lutheran ladies don't have a chance, and I didn't say anything but I noticed the wedding band on the girl's finger as she typed.
Then Louise walked right over and introduced herself to the girl. And the girl looked up and smiled and said her name was Melissa, she was an assistant professor in the Biology Department, and gathered us all together, and said that and even though she had never really worked with Professor Jorgensen as he had retired from regular teaching moved away, except for the summers, before she was hired, she was honored to take over a program which he had started, and she was so delighted that we had all decided to continue with the program, it was really a wonderful tribute to a great man's memory.
At which point she looked at our faces and realized that we had all come to the class expecting to find Professor Jorgensen.
None of us had heard the news. Not even me.
Thursday, June 14, 2007
Melissa, June 13, 2007
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It's the little things, sometimes, that make you think your energies are going in the wrong direction.
I really believe in living up to my commitments, and last year I made a commitment: to a three-year term on the board. It was an honor, sort of—at least something that I could put on my C.V.—the sort of third-tier community service that might give you a little extra insurance when the tenure review comes around. But I didn't kid myself—I knew that being secretary of the board of directors of The Tangled Bank Nature Center was worth, at most, about 2% of my tenure, and that every hour of actual work it obligated me to do was essentially a wasted hour.
But you know, that wasn't the problem.
Even when Lisa started talking about resigning, and suddenly the executive committee became a search committee and a damage control committee, and a let's-sit-down-with-a-bottle-of-wine-and- tell-each-other-it's-the-mission-not-Lisa committee (which usually required a second or third bottle of wine, because we all knew that Lisa was the reason we had all gotten involved, after all, Lisa was The Tangled Bank, but now we, as board members, had to dedicate ourselves to the fiction that the center was an ongoing community institution and that Lisa was merely our employee)—even then, it didn't seem much of a burden. I guess once you get into committee mode—when you've spent your afternoon sorting through the pre-defined agendas that your colleagues bring to a Biology Department four-year-plan "brainstorming" session, it almost seems natural to spend an hour on the phone discussing the impact on extant grant applications of the impending departure of the founder, executive director, principal fundraiser, and very visible public face of the Tangled Bank Nature Center.
No, it wasn't that my position on the center's board distracted me from Biology Department business—or even from my own teaching and research. It was that one particular phone call—the phone call where I agreed, wholeheartedly, that the board would keep the center going without Lisa—distracted me from Jake.
Jacob. My son. My sweetheart.
I knew something had been bothering Jake—since Memorial Day he had been acting strangely—not to me, so much, as to his father. Jake's a great kid—very patient and understanding—he knows how hard I work, but he also knows that I make time when we can be together. Sometimes it almost seems as if he keeps an agenda of important things for us to talk about. When we get the chance. The way I keep a list of issues I need to discuss with the department chair.
That's too much to ask of an eight-year-old, isn't it?
Anyway, that night he had something to tell me. I think he had saved it up—waiting patiently until we were alone—until his father had left the house.
"Mom," he said. "Remember the picnic?"
"You mean Memorial Day?" I said. It wasn't a big picnic—we had some people over to grill out—including Lisa and her daughter Samantha. Whatever the conflicts of interest involved, Lisa's still my neighbor. And my friend.
"Yeah," said Jake. "You know how Samantha and I went inside to play chess?"
And that's when the phone rang.
It's the little things, sometimes, that make you think your energies are going in the wrong direction.
I really believe in living up to my commitments, and last year I made a commitment: to a three-year term on the board. It was an honor, sort of—at least something that I could put on my C.V.—the sort of third-tier community service that might give you a little extra insurance when the tenure review comes around. But I didn't kid myself—I knew that being secretary of the board of directors of The Tangled Bank Nature Center was worth, at most, about 2% of my tenure, and that every hour of actual work it obligated me to do was essentially a wasted hour.
But you know, that wasn't the problem.
Even when Lisa started talking about resigning, and suddenly the executive committee became a search committee and a damage control committee, and a let's-sit-down-with-a-bottle-of-wine-and- tell-each-other-it's-the-mission-not-Lisa committee (which usually required a second or third bottle of wine, because we all knew that Lisa was the reason we had all gotten involved, after all, Lisa was The Tangled Bank, but now we, as board members, had to dedicate ourselves to the fiction that the center was an ongoing community institution and that Lisa was merely our employee)—even then, it didn't seem much of a burden. I guess once you get into committee mode—when you've spent your afternoon sorting through the pre-defined agendas that your colleagues bring to a Biology Department four-year-plan "brainstorming" session, it almost seems natural to spend an hour on the phone discussing the impact on extant grant applications of the impending departure of the founder, executive director, principal fundraiser, and very visible public face of the Tangled Bank Nature Center.
No, it wasn't that my position on the center's board distracted me from Biology Department business—or even from my own teaching and research. It was that one particular phone call—the phone call where I agreed, wholeheartedly, that the board would keep the center going without Lisa—distracted me from Jake.
Jacob. My son. My sweetheart.
I knew something had been bothering Jake—since Memorial Day he had been acting strangely—not to me, so much, as to his father. Jake's a great kid—very patient and understanding—he knows how hard I work, but he also knows that I make time when we can be together. Sometimes it almost seems as if he keeps an agenda of important things for us to talk about. When we get the chance. The way I keep a list of issues I need to discuss with the department chair.
That's too much to ask of an eight-year-old, isn't it?
Anyway, that night he had something to tell me. I think he had saved it up—waiting patiently until we were alone—until his father had left the house.
"Mom," he said. "Remember the picnic?"
"You mean Memorial Day?" I said. It wasn't a big picnic—we had some people over to grill out—including Lisa and her daughter Samantha. Whatever the conflicts of interest involved, Lisa's still my neighbor. And my friend.
"Yeah," said Jake. "You know how Samantha and I went inside to play chess?"
And that's when the phone rang.
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